The words of Jesus about love provide specific
reason to conclude that Christians have sufficient motivation
to be the best lovers. Note what Jesus had to say about love:
"You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with
all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and first
commandment. And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor
as yourself.." Loving God and loving another human being are thus
equal in importance and in kind.
It strikes me that this double love commandment lays the groundwork
for the understanding of what it takes to be the very best lover
you can be. The starting point for all Christian ethics is the
profound sense of self worth that flows out of an awareness that
one is, in fact, a child of God, reflecting the goodness of God
in one's own nature. Ideally, a Christian moves about in the world
fully aware of being loved by God, and empowered by God to enter
into a loving relationship with others.
Loving God is synonymous with loving your neighbor. If we say
that we love God, we are also saying that we love our neighbor.
To say that we love God and to not love our neighbor is a contradiction.
In fact, when we don't love our neighbor, what we are really saying
is that we don't love God.
In the act of loving a person that we are committed to in a relationship,
nothing leads to satisfaction more reliably than the conscious
effort to satisfy one's partner. Hence, the secret of being a
better lover can be condensed into a single phrase, spoken by
Jesus Christ himself: "Love your neighbor as yourself." Further,
when a person of faith enters into such a mutually satisfying
relationship with another human being, giving and receiving love,
in the manner suggested by Jesus, then one also becomes aware
that in the depths of one's love for another person one feels
closest to the God of love.
So it should not seem strange or unusual at all to suggest that
Christians make better lovers. Rather it is both tragic and surprising
that this is not commonly understood. For if it were, we can safely
bet that our churches would be packed to overflowing with people
experiencing true love to the fullest.